IN the latest of our occasional features highlighting the difference made by Thurrock Fostering Service, meet a young woman who has seen first hand how lives can be changed for the better.

EMILY, 27 from Thurrock, has seen first-hand the positive difference fostering can make. Although she had recently moved out of the family home when her parents became foster carers, she has remained a big part of their fostering journey.

"I was about 21 or 22 when my mum and dad started fostering," Emily explained.

"Before that, I didn't know much about fostering and we didn't know anyone who fostered. Going through the assessment process with them gave me an insight into what was involved and what we could expect."

At first, Emily found it a little unusual adjusting to the new family dynamic.

"I'd just moved out, so it felt a bit strange. It was almost like I'd left the family unit and then the unit continued without me. I was worried at first that the children might not understand who I was because I wasn't living there all the time."

Those concerns quickly faded as she built strong relationships with the children who came into her parents' care.

"I spent a lot of time making sure I built a relationship with them, just like I would with younger siblings. All of them have been lovely and we've developed really good bonds. They all feel like my little buddies."

Emily says one of the biggest joys of fostering has been seeing children settle into family life and grow in confidence.

"It's wonderful to see them come out of their shell, become more comfortable and make happy memories with us. They're all so friendly, sweet and full of character."

Family celebrations have provided some of her favourite memories.

"Christmas is always really special. Watching them open presents on Christmas morning is so exciting. We also enjoy simple things like walks in nature, trips out and spending time together. Those moments are really precious."

Through fostering, Emily says she has learned the importance of patience and understanding.

"You can't expect children to immediately feel comfortable. Every child needs time to find their feet. Fostering has taught me patience, given me a more open mind and helped me understand that each child's journey is different."

She believes fostering is often very different from how it is portrayed in films and television.

"People sometimes imagine it is all about big gestures and dramatic moments, but actually it's much more about everyday life. It's breakfast before school, family dinners, helping with homework and having fun in the little moments."

"It becomes part of your routine and they become part of your family. What really matters is providing a stable, caring environment where children can feel safe and thrive."

Emily is incredibly proud of the role her parents play as foster carers and the wider fostering community they have become part of.

"I'm proud of my family because they welcome children with open arms and genuinely make a difference. They don't just support the children who come into their home, they also engage with and support the wider fostering community."

She would encourage other families to consider fostering.

"There is so much enrichment that comes from welcoming children into your home. It's not just about what you can give to them. They bring so much to your life too, and the experiences you share together are really special."

As a daughter of foster carers, Emily has developed a unique relationship with the children who join her family.

"I think they see me as a fun aunt. When I visit they're always excited to see me, which is lovely. We have lots of fun together and I get to enjoy their company while also supporting my parents when I can."

Reflecting on her family's fostering journey, Emily is clear about what it means to her.

"Being part of a fostering family means supporting children who need it. I'm really proud that my family can do that."

Could you provide a safe, stable and caring home for a child? Find out more about fostering with Thurrock Council at Fostering | Thurrock Council